Orkusuga – An Unheard of Word
I found a new word that relates to emotionally draining people: orkusuga. The definition is an emotional “energy sucker”. Someone (usually a friend) who requires so much attention and emotional maintenance that their presence basically saps away all energy and offered care out of the relationships they get from other people.
We all know these toxic people. The dramatic busybodies. Not that they try to be toxic on purpose, but their need to be around people and talk and control every situation is draining for an introvert like myself. They have to tell you all of their business in great detail and ask nosy questions about all your business, and then give you suggestions on how to fix yourself. They want to show you everything they bought, did, and have. Then they demand you stay and eat something. And, as you leave, they walk you out to your car and talk and talk some more and try to make plans for you to come back over and do it again. Ugh.. it’s draining just thinking about it.
Set Healthy Boundaries
Here’s an idea… set healthy boundaries for yourself. It’s okay to keep a healthy balance between being nice yet also taking care of yourself. Otherwise, you will end up angry and resentful of the inevitable chain of events that will happen with certain people. And, unfortunately, some people don’t take “No” for an answer and then you’re better off just keeping your distance.
An orkusuga analogy with a flannel board story.
My interest was piqued in flannel board stories as a child when my mom would draw or cut out pictures from a catalog or magazine. She would use them as focal points as she told a story for Family Home Evening. I have a file cabinet full of manila folders of pictures that go with stories. We use these little stories and pictures for all sorts of things:
- when my husband wants a little story for a family he Home Teaches.
- Sunday School Classes
- Primary Sharing Time.
- And, I look forward to the day when I can tell flannel board stories to my future grandchildren. 🙂
PLEASE NOTE: Actually having the pictures made of flannel is irrelevant. I mostly use pictures printed on cardstock and laminated.
You know the story line, a boy shares a cookie with a mouse, then the mouse needs a glass of milk, a straw, a napkin, a mirror, a haircut, a nap, a soft pillow, etc. The chain of events keeps the boy busy all day long… and might keep him busy for days to come.
Mouse is an orkusuga! He reminds me of some of the toxic people I have in my life. I swear, there are some people in my life where if you give an inch, they will take a mile… or more… guaranteed! They expect everyone’s lives to revolve around them.
I think this word is so wonderfully perfect for that one type of person we all know. Do you have an orkusuga?
Regardless, check out these amazing and adorable pictures that you can purchase for a flannel board story of “If You Give A Mouse A Cookie.” You can click on each picture and they will take you to the websites where you can purchase them. And don’t forget to remember the moral of the story:
Set Healthy Boundaries!