Introverts and extroverts. Does it really matter?
I like the personality traits explanation below of what an introvert and extrovert are at www.fastcompany.com:
“Introversion and extroversion actually relate to where people get their energy from. Or in other words, how they recharge their brains.
Introverts (or those of us with introverted tendencies) tend to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds.
Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people. Extroverts actually find their energy is sapped when they spend too much time alone. They recharge by being social.”
Differences are okay.
I’ve always felt different… to the point of being defective. I could never understand why being around people was so draining.
It might not matter to most people the understanding that there are different ways that people experience the world. But, to me, learning about introverts and extroverts has given me peace about who I am. I no longer care if people don’t get me. I get me and that is all that is important.
Unfortunately I didn’t learn this truth until I was 40. To try and hide my guilt from feeling guilty, bad, and wrong all the time, I turned into a people-pleaser. That got me through high school, but slowly into adulthood, my inner conflict kept growing bigger and bigger until I just became depressed and resentful with anyone that needed anything from me. I thank God that I finally learned this truth.
My in-laws are extroverts. It has been a big adjustment on both sides to learn how to understand and treat each other. They have had to learn that I need my space and privacy. I don’t want to know all of their business, and I definitely do not want them to know any of mine.
I don’t like them showing up unannounced for no reason and I don’t like phone calls just to chit-chat. They are host-aholics and host lots of parties and get-togethers. They like to be around lots of people and talk and visit. I don’t. They have had to learn that just because I don’t show up, doesn’t mean that I don’t like them. It simply means that I can’t do big social situations. It makes me physically sick and depressed.
And, I’ve learned to just smile whenever they give me suggestions and advice on how to “fix” myself. It’s all about loving people unconditionally. We don’t know all that goes on behind each other’s smile. Life can be hard. We all struggle with many different things. But we don’t have to make it harder by judging and taking offense. We are all God’s children and we need to learn how to love others the way He loves them.