Lessons learned from Kyra:
- No symptom should be ignored. Take time to think about what’s going on with your body and write everything down. Make doctor visits and get things taken care of as soon as possible.
- Take time for friends and loved ones. You never know when the last time you see someone will be the last time.
- Visitors, texts, and phone calls were extremely appreciated by Berneil. He loved the concern and care of other people. It made him feel loved and valuable.
- The pure love of Jesus Christ is real. He is real. Our home was filled with an incomprehensible feeling of love and peace and light and hope when my brother passed through the veil from this life. I could feel the love that Jesus Christ had for him and it was bigger that anything I can describe!
- There is strengthening power through the atonement of Jesus Christ. I’m a person who gets overwhelmed easily and needs a lot of down time to process things and fill my bucket back up again. The month of October was hard for me as I helped to take care of Berneil. But somehow, I was able to meet all the demands on my time. There were times when I was even impressed and amazed with myself… not to sound arrogant or proud. But to acknowledge that there is a higher self in each of us and that God gives us the strength and MORE to accomplish his will.
- God hears and answers prayers. I prayed a lot of pleading prayers for Berneil’s pain to be eased and for me to know how to help him. I remember crying and praying at night in our backyard while looking up at the stars and being in awe of the worlds His hand had made. And knowing that He was aware of me. He was aware of Berneil. He was aware of each person in my family and each friend and family member and nurse that helped. And He needed us to trust Him. And we did. We still do. He is our Rock. Our Salvation. Our Hope. I love my Savior, Jesus Christ.
- There is a conversion process that takes place as we submit our will to the will of the Father. Each one of us became better through our service to my brother. I used to be the one who didn’t do funeral viewings and was creeped out by people that would touch a dead person. But then that dead person became my brother… and I wasn’t scared any more. I knew he was still alive but in a better place. And I didn’t mind holding his hand and expressing my love to him. The day that our family gathered at the mortuary and dressed him for his casket, is a day I will never forget. I experienced a change of heart. I am humbled by the people who didn’t wait to be asked for help, but who showed up with willing hands and hearts to offer whatever form of service they could… because of their deep conversion to the gospel of Jesus Christ. I love my friends and extended family.
- Families are forever. This isn’t a new lesson I learned. Just one that has been reinforced deeply as someone close to me has moved on to the next stage of the plan of salvation. Oh how great is the goodness of our God!
Lessons learned from sister-in-law, Kay:
- Be kind. Always be kind. I can’t stress this one enough. I saw how people’s unkindness from years ago affected a life. I had a lot of sad moments because of that unkindness, and I am forever changed. It was a good reminder to me how kindness is always the best option.
- Get a will. Get a power of attorney. Get something, anything to help those dealing with your life after you are gone. It’s hard to think about, but I have seen just how important it is, and how hard it is to deal with a life without those things.
- Sometimes we are going to have trials in our life that are too heavy to bear, too much to handle. But that’s why the Lord has given us family and friends, to help us bear those burdens. Bo and I are so thankful for so many people and the help they offered us in this hard time in our life. ❤
- But mostly, be kind, the world will be a better place for it. And now, I could use a nap…for a month or so…😴💤
Lessons learned from Shannon:
- God moves in mysterious ways. He can use the death of someone to bring to pass other good things. He placed important people in our lives that we needed to connect with that we wouldn’t have unless this tragic event happened. Thank you Annie Murphy and Ezra Borrego for your help and love. Glad we met you. You are an important part of our lives now. Ezra personally introduced me to the members of Three2U and the Nashville Tribute Band in helping with my singing dreams. He also arranged for me to sing at the Veteran’s Day program at The Haven Rest Home in Lakeside, AZ. Thank you for giving me the opportunity.